Wednesday 24 June 2020

DOUBLE DENIM: A TRIBUTE TO MY DAD #FATHERSDAY


Outfit

Jacket - Cow Vintage
Jeans - Zara
Shoes - Public Desire
Bag - Urban Outfitters

Ah Denim, the world's most popular fabric, the most worn, its hard wearing, you can find it in virtually every style you can think of, and is worn by almost everyone. Although denim is part of my every day casual wardrobe, double denim is not a look I usually do - well I haven't been doing many looks at all lately because my go to quarantine look has been a pair of comfy leggings, a vest and a satin headscarf, however restrictions are being eased and my looks can now be dusted off and ready once again for the outside world.


On Sunday 21st June it was fathers day, and as always it was a joyous occasion in my parents house. We ordered in food from two amazing black owned businesses, we watched films and I had a flick through some old photo albums. My favourite photo ever of my dad and I is me standing on top of a car as a baby and my dad has on the most fabulous double denim look with a thin white belt.


I thought it would be cool if I re created my dad's denim outfit from that photo as my tribute to him on fathers day. I opted for these slouchy jeans from Zara and honestly they are the most comfortable pair of jeans I own. I often find jeans quite restrictive and tight, but I do literally everything is these and I have no issues, I wear these dressed up, I wear these to my styling jobs, and even paired with a bandeau or a vest and a pair of sandals, it can easily become part of a great summer look.



I wanted to put a little twist on the outfit and opted for this leopard print belt from Primark to break the denim up a little, and chose this bag from Urban outfitters that I've had for a about six years to pair it with.


I LOVE these shoes! My sister hates them with a passion, but I want them in every colour. They are so comfortable and the perfect heel height to walk around in, without worrying about if your feet are going to feel like they are being attacked by your shoes within half an hour of being worn.


The details, the details, the details are so important. When an outfit needs to be pulled together, your accessories  do that for you, when choosing accessories they don't necessarily need to match but they should compliment your outfit.


As lockdown eases be safe, wash your hands and keep being fabulous! :)

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Friday 5 June 2020

BIRMINGHAM BLACK LIVES MATTER PROTEST!: WHY PROTESTING IS IMPORTANT

I AM SO PROUD OF MY CITY BIRMINGHAM!

Out of all the things I have been a part of, this has to be the thing I am most proud of. After spending the week feeling extremely overwhelmed with emotions constantly flitting between rage and sadness about the heinous killing of George Floyd, Ahmaud Arbery and Breonna Taylor, it felt so electrifying to be a part of something that was much bigger than myself. We chanted, we marched, there were speeches and by the time I left I felt so empowered. When I got home after a long day, tired, voice hurting and blisters on my foot,  I decided to participate in a Zoom call where the participants were discussing the 'Black Lives Matter' movement where the question was raised 'What does protesting do and is it still necessary? We have been marching for years and nothing has changed'. I had a think about this after I came off the call and I thought, YES! Yes protesting is still necessary for different
reasons.


MARKETING

1.) Protesting is necessary because it is your marketing tool, it amplifies the message that you are trying to get out to the world, to get people to pay attention too, to evoke conversation, and to spark the catalyst that will hopefully implement change. It is no different to signing a petition, if 10,000 people sign the petition for there to be a change to the law, then parliament can give them a response, but if 100,000 people sign a petition, then it can be considered for a debate in parliament, it raises the stakes.

EMPOWERMENT

2.) Most people do not hold the same power as our iconic celebrities like Jay-Z or Beyonce who can donate hundreds of thousands of dollars to bailout funds or organisations. However what people do have is their voice. Not everyone has a loud voice and some people don't even know what to say, but some people rely on these peaceful protests in order to feel empowered to gain the courage to speak up and do what's right in their own lives going forward.



BELONGING

3.) Protesting can give you sense of belonging. Whilst I have had my family to lean on through these distressing times to talk to and cry with, other people have not. Going to a protest for some people is a learning experience and provides them with a sense of relief that they are amongst other people that are experiencing the same feelings of hurt, pain and frustration.

4.) PHYSICAL UNITY

It is about seeing a physical manifestation of unity which is important, because it forces people to acknowledge that there is an issue that they need to be concerned about, and if this many people are resisting then maybe there is a problem that needs to be fixed.

Participating in the protest yesterday made me feel so proud of Birmingham the city I am from, and how we came together to stand in solidarity for 'Black Lives Matter' and the call to end white supremacy. But it cannot end here, it cannot end at a protest, there must be actionable and tangible change made after the protest.



WHAT DO WE DO NEXT

1. SUPPORT BLACK BUSINESSES

We have so much talent within our own community and yet we constantly spend our money elsewhere. A lot of companies, brands and co-operations really don't give two shits about 'Black Lives' and if they matter, and for many of them the only language they understand is money. If we take our money out of these brands then they will realise the strength of the black pound or dollar and how much we have contributed them, for a change let's BUILD EACH OTHER UP INSTEAD.

2.) INSIDE THE WORKPLACE

Email your workplace and ask the HR department to review their policies for everyone to see, highlighting how they intend to stamp out systematic racism and how they are going to ensure equal opportunities to black staff, question them on how they intend to ensure the mental wellbeing of their staff in the workplace, are there going to be measures put in place to ensure that their black staff are not being overlooked and passed over for career progression. Is there going to be a rise of black people in senior positions.




3.) HOLD BRANDS ACCOUNTABLE

Brands who have committed to standing in solidarity with the 'Black Lives Matter' movement need to prove that they genuinely mean it, they cannot get away with performative rage, so many of them will use this to capitalise off black pain and expression, and then forget about us again in a few months, they MUST follow through. Email them and ask them what they plan to do differently regarding diversity within their companies, do they donate to black organisations what is the HR policy of dealing with racism, is diversity reflected in their brand.

4.) VOTE & WRITE TO YOUR LOCAL MP

It is extremely important to vote. Read up on your local MP and find out what they are doing for their constituents, do they speak on the issues that are important to your community when they are going to represent you in the house of parliament. Write to them and tell them the issues you are unhappy with and ask how they intend to resolve them. Vote in the general election, there is often a misconception that your vote won't count or there is no point voting, but we MUST vote, read up on the different parties and what they represent in their manifestos - it's long and boring, but it affects us so we need to be clued up. The MP for Birmingham Perry Barr is Khalid Mahmood.



5.) EDUCATE

We need to ensure that we are edifying our communities with resources and skills. We need to have those tough but healthy and necessary conversations about race with our children, we cannot avoid it because the learning starts at home. For teenagers and adults (READ, READ, READ AND READ SOME MORE!) I am saying this to myself as well. We need to know our history to know who we are and to also understand that black history did not start with slavery, and to further understand the root of white supremacy which is complex and multi layered.

Essential Reading List by Dr. Akala


6.) FINANCIAL LITERACY

I read a book called 'Rich Dad, Poor Dad' and a line that has always stood out to me is 'He who holds the money, holds the rules'. We need to teach our community and children about how to invest, how to save, reduce expenses, build credit scores and compound money.

7.) DONATE TO BLACK ORGANISATIONS

Finally whilst I know that eventually the chanting, protesting and marching will die down, and this is not going to change over night, I am confident that there is going to be a shift in the atmosphere for real change to occur. This protest movement is the biggest in HISTORY! let's not forget what kind of change we can bring about when we come together, let's keep continuing to support the movement and support black organisations who can keep advocating for change and spreading the message. Stay safe guys and be the change you want to see xx

Donate to UK Organisations

Donate to Black Minds Matter UK:
https://www.gofundme.com/f/black-minds-matter-uk?
Donate to Stop Hate UK:
Donate to Belly Mujinga’s family:
Donate to Show Racism the Red Card:
Donate to the Stephen Lawrence Charitable Foundation:
Donate to Hope Not Hate:
Expanded list of UK charities that work with Black and POC communities:
Donate to Black Lives Matter:
Donate to Black Visions Collective:
Donate to the Movement for Black Lives:
Donate to Campaign Zero to support policy solutions to end police brutality in America:
Donate to The Bail Project:
Donate to George Floyd Memorial Fund:
Donate to Reclaim the Block:
Donate to bail funds across the US:


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WE NEED JUSTICE - BLACK LIVES MATTER!

Hi all, With everything that has been happening across the world from Covid-19 to the 'Black Lives Matter' protests  It's been a about a week since I wrote this piece below and put it out across my social media pages. Two days after the news of the George Floyd murder broke, my fiance and I had a very emotionally draining but sadly not unfamiliar conversation. How many more times would a black person have to be executed by police brutality or at the hands of racists before enough is enough? When I heard the distress and cracking in my fiance's voice, I knew I had to do something and speak up about this, I literally sat up in bed grabbed my laptop and just poured my heart out...this is what I had to say.

I've honestly just been wanting to cry for the last two days, my heart feels so heavy. It is 2020, 2020 and black people are still having to be subjected to this murderous bullshit at the hands of racist police.

ARTWORK BY: ARIEL SINHA

The Amy Cooper video in the park and the Oscar winning performance of her pretending to be attacked by a black man while she was on the phone to police made me sick to my stomach. She weaponised her tears and knew that being a white woman would allow her the privilege of being viewed as a victim despite her being the villain. My first thought was 'Thank God that man was filming!'... but can you imagine if he wasn't? The police could have brutalised that man and destroyed his life, and she KNEW IT, she knew it and she maliciously continued knowing that phone call could end his life, she was well aware that black life in the justice system is valued so little. 

When people say things like 'I don't see colour' and then chime in with examples of how they too have had 'similar experiences of being oppressed', it is a load of bullshit, and it is an attempt to erase your experiences as a black person trying to navigate your way through society, to falsely insinuate that these experiences can happen to anyone, to downplay the seriousness of the racial injustice taking place, and to suppress your right to feel outrage.

I then had to think about how many Amy Cooper experiences black people have encountered in general life and at work. Like the time my younger sister came home from her 'shiny' TV job in distress because she was minding her own business by the photocopier when a white woman walked up to her out of no where and said to her 'Do you speak in that clicky language' (Yes she said that, I can't make this up), my sister said 'Shara I literally just put my face in my hand and walked away, I didn't say anything to her at all I just walked away. The woman then proceeds TO BURST INTO TEARS and three members of the team in the office rush over to console her, and then they turn on my sister shouting 'WHAT HAVE YOU DONE TO HER?!' meanwhile the woman didn't own up to the fact the she was the one who had caused offence, she watched them verbally accuse my sister, cowered behind her tears and did nothing, the rest of the team then told my sister that she needed to apologise to the woman, (when my sister told me this I was furious). Very often when you are the only black person in an environment like that or in the office and the rest of the team is white and they haven't been culturally introduced to people of other races, many of them rely on their narrow media stereotypes to cast judgement (e.g 'the aggressive black woman') and frequently make throw away comments towards black people, so as a black person we are always trying to figure out how to navigate these spaces, do our work and come home in peace without feeling emotionally exhausted, over looked or dismissed by the end of the day. 


Or the time when my fiancé went to pick up his friend in Chelsea, parked his car waiting for his friend, and a white woman came out of her house, walked up to his car and said to him he needed to move his car because she doesn't want any drive by shootings happening around there (when I heard this my blood was boiling!) It didn't matter to her that my fiance is an amazing man, an engineer, a sports coach running a business with his close friends, and a son who looks after his mother and makes her beam with pride, she made a disgusting stereotypical pre judgement based on the colour of his skin. Or the time when I was at my retail job and my line manager was boasting about a black guy she was dating and then said 'I'm not sure about taking him home because I don't know how my kids will react to his black skin' (my jaw literally dropped at the fact she felt so comfortable to say this too my face, I was livid!) in an attempt to remain calm I said 'I am a black woman, you cannot date a black man and pick and choose pieces of him', her reply was 'Yes but he's not like your black he's like a dark dark...' at which point I lost it and I had to school her right then and there, she also welled up with tears (eye roll). These experiences are VERY common (and I have way more examples than this). Most of the time when black people are at work or just living life they are censoring themselves around other races for reasons like this. White women who are in the wrong but weaponise their tears against black men and women knowing it can lead to their demise or smear their character is a form of violence and I for one WILL NOT remain silent about it.

If you are not black but you 'have black friends', love dating black men, love black culture, love black food, you guys need to speak the fuck up. It's not good enough to say you are not aware, it's not good enough to turn a blind eye, you don't get to dip in and out of black culture when you feel like it. Black men are not your fetish, they are not your 'bad boys', they are not your 'big d*ck fantasies', they are not your trophies to make you look cool, they are not your hyper masculine action figures for you too objectify who can handle anything. Black women are not your stereotypes, we are not your sassy black friends, we are not all 'strong black women who can handle anything', where is the room for us to be vulnerable and breathe? Black men and women are human beings with emotions, feelings and families, who would like to live life without having to pass down generational traumas or the, 'you'll have to work twice as hard to be seen as equal' conversation to the younger generation growing up behind them. WE ARE TIRED!



Black men and women PLEASE watch your mental health at this time, it is not normal to continuously watch yourselves like lambs to the slaughter at the hands of evil racists, police and Amy Coopers of this world. For other races they get to call the police and more often than not they know things will be fine, black people always have to think twice before doing so because they don't know how it will end for them. If reading this post has made you uncomfortable - GOOD! It is time that we stop sweeping things underneath the rug pretending these issues don't exist and start being honest with each other and having these hard ugly conversations, we cannot mollycoddle the truth anymore because it may hurt someone's feelings.

And to people reading this who want to speak out against the ongoing murders of black people, but choose not too and are scared of how it will affect their jobs, their relationships with other people etc please remember the words of Desmond Tutu when he said 'If you choose to be neutral in situations of injustice, then you have chosen the side of the oppressor'. #BLACKLIVESMATTER #R.I.P #AHMAUDARBERY#GEORGEFLOYD #BREONNATAYLOR 

REST IN POWER!
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